A spaghetti squash? That's what Twiggy is this week. I don't even know what one looks like, oh well, hopefully next week will be a more recognizable fruit or vegetable! Something I do understand, she's 1 pound and almost 11 inches! WOW!! Her bones are getting stronger, hence the stronger kicks. Although they don't necessarily seem stronger but they are much more often even when I am standing sometimes!
Knockin on wood but still no stretch marks. All the books, emails etc are talking about stretch marks and varicose veins this week. Maybe my slower weight gain is helping with this, I sure hope so!
Still on cloud 9 about the furniture! We got about 75% of the stuff out of the top shelves in the guest room (nursery) closet and everything out from under the bed. We have a long way to go with the room but it's nice to get started. Hmmm, I should take a before pic tonight...
Interesting what you can learn by talking to your spouse. I assumed we were done with baby making after this unless some 3-5% miracle occurred. Well over the weekend Jamie said something about a second kid and I said not to count on it. Well he said we would do IVF again. What? Really? You do realize insurance is tapped out so that would be around $12k? He said yes and that is ok with him. He was very matter of fact about it. It blew me away. I had no idea. I thought the money would be a big issue and so not even a topic for discussion. Turns out since this one worked on the first try he is pretty optimistic about it working again. So stay tuned, we might be doing IVF again in 12-18 months. Hmmm, very interesting! :)
Showing posts with label baby 2. Show all posts
Showing posts with label baby 2. Show all posts
Monday, January 14, 2008
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Trying for #2
I have been asked several times if we plan on having more than one baby. I guess my simple answer is you can plan anything you want but it doesn't mean it will happen. When Jamie and I first started dating, I made it very clear that I wanted to adopt a child (or 2 or 3) someday. I hoped to have babies of my own but still wanted to adopt an older child or a baby if I could not give birth for some reason. It was very important to me to only date someone that was open to adoption. He hadn't really thought about it but said he was open to the idea. That was good enough for me and we kept dating :)
Back then I wanted to give birth to 2-3 children and adopt 2-3 once my bio children were in their early teens or so. Jamie always said, let's start with one and work our way up.
I still dream of having 2-3 and adopting 2-3, so yes I would love to have more but I can't plan on more.
Yesterday I did some final figuring on our infertility insurance. I updated my spreadsheet and discovered our insurance has paid a bit over $9500 for infertility coverage. My lifetime limit is $10,000. Assuming i can only get pregnant with IVF, this means we are most likely not going to get pregnant again. Yes, things can happen. When we first got diagnosed with high FSH, we were told our chances of conceiving on our own was about 3-5%. So yes, we could maybe get pregnant on our own. I could get a different job someday with different insurance, Jamie's insurance could improve (I expect pigs to start flying first) or we could win the lottery and afford to pay $12,000 for IVF on our own. So I guess what I am saying is that I am 99% convinced this is the only baby that I will give birth to and while I am EXTREMELY grateful to have this one baby, there is a part of me that is sad about losing my dream of 2-3.
About adoption, Jamie and I have not really talked about it now that we are pregnant (he was of course very on board adopting before IVF came into the picture) so I am not sure how he feels yet about child #2 and I imagine he will still say, let's just have #1 first and worry about that later. So here are my thoughts only, I want to have more than one child in my life. I do not need the next child to be a baby though (at least not now) Considering adoption will be $25k - $35k for an infant, I would rather adopt a child or two in the 2-5 year old range. When would I want to do this? I am not sure, I guess I am with Jamie on just wait and see.
So if any of you were going to ask if we plan on having more than one... here is the answer.
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Snoogle update, I only woke up 4 times last night!!!! Orangie shared very nicely with me too :)
Back then I wanted to give birth to 2-3 children and adopt 2-3 once my bio children were in their early teens or so. Jamie always said, let's start with one and work our way up.
I still dream of having 2-3 and adopting 2-3, so yes I would love to have more but I can't plan on more.
Yesterday I did some final figuring on our infertility insurance. I updated my spreadsheet and discovered our insurance has paid a bit over $9500 for infertility coverage. My lifetime limit is $10,000. Assuming i can only get pregnant with IVF, this means we are most likely not going to get pregnant again. Yes, things can happen. When we first got diagnosed with high FSH, we were told our chances of conceiving on our own was about 3-5%. So yes, we could maybe get pregnant on our own. I could get a different job someday with different insurance, Jamie's insurance could improve (I expect pigs to start flying first) or we could win the lottery and afford to pay $12,000 for IVF on our own. So I guess what I am saying is that I am 99% convinced this is the only baby that I will give birth to and while I am EXTREMELY grateful to have this one baby, there is a part of me that is sad about losing my dream of 2-3.
About adoption, Jamie and I have not really talked about it now that we are pregnant (he was of course very on board adopting before IVF came into the picture) so I am not sure how he feels yet about child #2 and I imagine he will still say, let's just have #1 first and worry about that later. So here are my thoughts only, I want to have more than one child in my life. I do not need the next child to be a baby though (at least not now) Considering adoption will be $25k - $35k for an infant, I would rather adopt a child or two in the 2-5 year old range. When would I want to do this? I am not sure, I guess I am with Jamie on just wait and see.
So if any of you were going to ask if we plan on having more than one... here is the answer.
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Snoogle update, I only woke up 4 times last night!!!! Orangie shared very nicely with me too :)
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